Aviva Reimer – “Becoming The Total Package”
Author Aviva Reimer is an expert in many facets of life. She is a personal development and life coach, a relationship counselor, fitness and transformation specialist, and the founder of the “Perfect-Fit Elite Lifestyle & Introduction” firm. Her new self-help book titled “Becoming The Total Package” was released earlier this summer.
In the book, Reimer explains that becoming the total package “means different things to different people. When it comes to our preferences in looks, personality, and character – we all have our unique ways of seeing the world. However, challenges in life and heartbreak inevitably affect all of us in different ways. We may not always be emotionally or mentally equipped to deal with them, which is why we sometimes need a helping hand.”
We recently spoke with Reimer about her latest release.
I even love the name of your book without reading it.
It was interesting because I was working with a fitness client and she watches me in action. We just connected. There are people you connect with, and I speak of this in the book. She came in one day, and she said to me, “when I think of you the word “total” comes to mind. You do so many different things in so many different ways, and It all comes together.” You are the total package doing it all.” I said, “Wait, what did you just say?” I said, ” That’s it, the total package.” Then I just tweaked it, and it became “Becoming The Total Package.” That’s what it is, and I love it too. This name wasn’t an easy thing to come up with knowing that you want people just to get it!”
I agree. It’s challenging to come up with a title that is a meaningful way to describe a book. So how do I become the total package?”
You have to accept every part of your life, and structure it in such a way that you are improving towards a higher level. A lot of people have their ducks lined up when it comes to their life but not without a few things that may be falling behind, which can also change your life in a flash. But the total package is somebody who definitely has an opened mind, who takes good care of themselves, somebody who is non-judgmental and open to possibilities, has a strong emotional life view whether they’ve been supported most of their life or whether they’ve grown as a person, as long as they get to that point. But somebody that can deliver and knows what the right decisions are. There are just so many different components in the book. I have chapters that touch upon every aspect of your life that can be eye opening.
So, it’s not only a physical thing?
No, it’s not. The physical thing is just one part. The biggest thing is self-awareness. The more self-aware you become, the more you know what you can expect from other human beings, the more you have an understanding of the kind of decisions you need to make. It’s a process, and I try to take people through that process in my book, like a recipe. I speak from experience. I’ve been through things, I’ve lived it; therefore, I can relate to people and show them how to get themselves out of that negative place.
I like that. You do a lot of things, including fitness. Just blast me with all that you do.
Well, there are so many things about a person. There’s fitness; there are image and clothing, your home space, there are the people around you; there are your intimate relationships. These are all aspects of a person’s life. You can try to go at it alone and trip over things, with no one that can reach out to you and give you a hand. Many don’t have that kind of support from someone, someone that can be honest with you or say the right things to you and to pull you out of a funk or depression or negativity. That’s a tough place to be. It sounds straightforward, but it’s not always just as simple as it sounds. So many positive components, for example, fitness is critical for longevity, stress release, confidence, discipline, retraining of your thoughts, positive endorphins, and all the other health benefits. Just that you are showing up for yourself builds accountability and confidence. Sometimes the motivation is not there for a lot of people, but if you do it slowly and realistically, you actually get there, and that’s an accomplishment.
I know, I visit the gym often, but not often enough. It can be addicting at times.
The more you go, the more addicting it becomes. There are little tricks that you can do just to get yourself there because you’ll be better for it. You’ll be thankful that you did. I coach people actually to get into that kind of physical activity. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the gym. It could be a brisk walk; it could be anything of a particular situation or environment that changes the energy. It’s very, very helpful. Another component is your clothing and how you wear it. I mean everybody looks into the mirror and wants to like what they see. It doesn’t matter what size you are but it’s essential to feel confident, and it’s necessary to love what you see in the mirror. So, if you’re working out and making some changes about how you look physically or your style, these things will enhance and bring that kind of confidence back to you. They are all tied together. If you’re starting a program and working out your body is going to change, and you’re going to need new clothes. You’re not going to fit into things the same way, a small price to pay to go shopping. Who doesn’t like to go shopping? So as much as it is hard work, it’s also gratifying. It’s a lot of fun.
How do you convince someone that they need to read your book?
There are so many components here for anyone who is going through a tough time. It’s also for people who are very successful but are not successful in love, for example. They might be successful in their business and personal skills, but they get timid, or they have fears of rejection, or maybe they don’t know how to approach someone. Perhaps they’ve been married for 30 years and now have to start over. It doesn’t matter how bright a person is; everybody needs a little bit of help at times. Myself included, as much as I know what the right decisions are, I also need somebody to support and reassure me that I am on the right track. I have my rock as well, and I will call her at the drop of a hat and share my decisions. She always makes time to listen. You could be the most intelligent person in the world, but you still can use some help with some direction or some reassurance.